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You can fall in love
with your life.
Today is your fresh start
to a new you.
You want more from your relationships.
You crave peace, fulfilment and emotional freedom.
You put so much of yourself into your relationships. But you just don’t get it back.
You can’t figure out why nothing seems to work.
You long for a soulful adventure that meets your needs.
But you're always anxious about what your partner is up to and whether you are wanted.
You can’t seem to stop feeling hurt, angry, sad and insecure.
Your fears damage the way you see yourself and threaten your relationships.
Not just with your partner, but with your children, your family, your in-laws and even at work.
Your insecurities are sucking the life out of you.
This is the last time you have to feel alone.
What’s REALLY stopping you experiencing love in your life?
HOW TO WIPE THE SLATE CLEAN,
AND START OVER CREATING A NEW LIFE.
HERE IS YOUR FRESH START LOVE JOURNEY BLUEPRINT.
For women who are caught up in painful relationship patterns who are ready to seek their own love first and experience inner happiness and freedom - even if everything is a total mess.
Welcome Fresh Start Love Journey
Who would you be without your pain?
Imagine yourself carefree and content no matter what
What would your life look without self-doubt, negative emotions, painful memories and bad vibes?
What would your life be like if you no longer felt the need to please everyone around you?
Who would you be if you were no longer completely dependent on your partner for validation, love and happiness?
You can become so in love with yourself you become a powerful force of life.
Most importantly, how would feel without the feeling dependent on anyone else to feel good about your life?
What happens when someone doesn’t turn out to be the person we thought they were?
Or when we fall apart?
The usual response is to demand our partners change (FIGHT)or to internalise our pain (FLIGHT) until we are sick. We numb ourselves with food, booze, social media or too much work. We seek distraction in our other relationships. Our life is determined by seeking relief instead of inspired by purpose and love.
This does not have to be your life.
The reason everything you've tried up until now doesn't work is because:
Relationships have become your THREAT!
In short, you're living off your stress hormones. Every decision you make is governed by FIGHT & FLIGHT SYNDROME. Right now, the only time you feel happy is either when you're getting your needs met by someone else or when you distract yourself with food, booze or whatever is your fancy.
For as long as your pain chemicals are high, and your happiness chemicals are low, it won't matter what relationship strategies you employ. You'll still end up unhappy.
Because you can never control other people. Relationships can't be managed. And when people do what you want because you've made them, you end up more insecure than ever.
You can't trust love you've coerced.
YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE.IT'S TIME TO STOP LOOKING FOR IT OUTSIDE OF YOU.
It's time to come home to you...
If you’re here it means you’re ready.
You’re ready to bigger than the things that trigger you so you’re not so easily hurt and disappointed.
You’re ready to release pain, shame and blame.
You’re ready to never feel lonely out of control again.
You want to love yourself but self-care doesn’t seem to be enough.
No matter what you do the pain is so big it is a driving force in your relationship.
You want to feel secure, content and peaceful no matter what someone is doing or not doing.
You want emotional freedom from hurt, anger, guilt and shame.
You’re ready to release the rage, pain, shame and blame.
You’re ready to learn how to grow love and happiness from within.
You’re ready to have lobe emanate outwards from your soul without ever having to feel drained.
You’re ready to discover the essence of you.
You’re ready to grow the love and happiness within.
You’re ready to tap into your inner wisdom
You’re ready to co-create a healthy relationship.
HOW DOES FOCUSING ON MYSELF
SHIFT MY RELATIONSHIPS?
When you are truly yourself, you already connected to love. You don’t need to seek it.
When you are connected to love, you have the clarity, compassion and strength to handle any relationship challenge.
When you are truly yourself
I know you crave a GREAT LOVE AFFAIR.
THE FRESH START LOVE JOURNEY WILL SHOW YOU HOW TO START WITH YOURSELF.
So that you don’t need affirmation from someone else.
So that the negative pattern of painful emotions and behaviours come to an end.
So that you can dare to love and listen to the whispers of your heart.
This course won’t teach you to be submissive or
This course will show how
This course will show you how to handle conflict and how to ask for what you want
This course helps you to get in touch with the real you. Because the real you has the wisdom to naturally solve life’s problems. The real you
"I was a hurting person, lacked confidence and did not believe in my dreams nor myself. I couldn't understand why my relationships were not working out, seeking love and validation from the world. I was a YES girl. 😀. In the first 3 weeks of the programme, I gained confidence. I'm now less dependent on people and my energy levels are amazing, I laugh harder and louder🙈 . I'm more myself without seeking permission to be. I use the hours in my day effectively. I no longer look outside of me to make things right when things go wrong, even when I forget and hurt I catch myself and start working from inside. Life no longer happens to me because I get that I am 100% responsible for my life. I am proud and grateful for where I am right now. ❤️❤️❤️ I AM LOVING MY LIFE! There is sooo much power in community. 💕 It's amazing being here and I am grateful for this space🙏" - Keamo Molefe
“Before I did this programme I was a depressed couch potato, who secluded herself from the world trying to numb a pain I didn't understand. Having been through a number of traumatic events in my life that have kept me in my shell. I felt angry, resentment and feelings of unworthiness. I was scared of meeting new people and self conscious of my body. Within a couple of days I was off the couch and doing things that enriched my life. I feel a new gratitude and my partner says I'm a happier person. I don't need to be perfect. I can just be ME. I'm facing my fears. And the community support is amazing" - Kagiso Kay Ramafoko
-Unhook from painful thoughts
I will show you how to transform your relationship with yourself
so that everything else in your life is transformed through that.
"It made me realize just how much power I had. I was feeling so helpless and thinking my husband was the reason for my unhappiness. I've learned to practise radical self love. I no longer feel like a victim. I've learned to let people in. I mean really let them in. I've learned to cry, to shout and to say it's enough. I've learned to let people be, to let them journey on their paths without my interference (I used to call this helping). I've learned to sit with my pain and know that it's all perfect - my depression, panic attacks and all. I am now more at peace and more free from it all. You've been such an incredible teacher. I love you will every fibre of my being." - Vuyile MaZikalala Ntshangase
Learn to have a love affair with yourself so you can break negative relationship patterns in your life.
Free yourself of guilt, anger, resentment, hurt and anxiety.
Increase your capacity to love unconditionally, starting with yourself.
"I have not taken any anxiety meds since I started. It feels good" - Tint P Malaza
"Before starting, I was struggling with depression, anxiety, using alcohol to cope. Within a few days, I noticed a remarkable difference in my ability to focus and felt increasingly energized. My emotions calmed, my mood elevated and my stress levels were no longer off the spectrum. Instead of melt downs that had me yelling, I became able to communicate my feelings. When I hit a rough patch, Jo’s gentle guidance was also a beautiful compliment to the e-course. This was a liberating experience.” Michal (At Michal's request, not her real name/image to protect her identity from an abusive ex.)
"Before I joined I was in a very dark place. I felt like I was facing another depression I didn't love my life anymore. During the programme I learned so much about myself. The right words to use are: "I found myself." I learned about my strength and how to learn from my weakness. I learned I'm in control of my emotions and how to react to those emotions. When I started I weighed 90kg. Four weeks down the line I had lost 10kg. I am coming out of this process equipped with so much information to last me a life time. Thanks for being such a beautiful person with a heart of gold. I will continue to trust the process." - Lindiwe Radebe
I'm Jo Ntsebeza a qualified professional coach, facilitator, trainer and lay counsellor with 25 years experience.
And it’s my mission to show you how to create love in your life so you can not only feel heard, safe and know you matter, but so you can experience a richness of love and freedom in your relationship (and your life). If this sounds like something you desire, I've got you
I'M A LOVE SHIFT RELATIONSHIP GUDIE, AND IN MY OWN LIFE I'VE:
Ended many negative personal and relationship patterns. Like you, I once believed relationships could make me happy. But I've found that, whatever my pain outside a relationship, it was amplified in it.
Then I began to systematically practise the tools and habits we now teach in The FreshStart Love Journey.
I began to heal and I transformed my life. I'm now in a relationship where I experience genuine love and presence in my partner. I’ve learned how to create an INNER HAPPINESS & LOVE that isn’t reliant on my husband or someone else. And now when things don’t go my way, I stay centered.
I’ve served as a coach and teacher to thousands of people in the last 25 years. I've helped CEO’s, leaders, managers and many people like yourselves to break free from their heartache; to move away from feeling disempowered in their relationships and being dependent on someone else for the well being.
Because here is the vegan beef:
You spend most of your energy worrying about what others are thinking, feeling and doing, leaving you feeling helpless and out of control. What you need is the courage to be disliked. For the courage to be disliked, you need to get out of fight/flight mode, raise your happiness levels and your stress threshold so you can tolerate what you think is not tolerable.
You're not giving building yourself spiritually, emotionally, mentally and physically - EVERY DAY - so that you don’t feel so easily unhinged. You've trained yourself to feel bad. Now you can learn how to train yourself to be happy. It takes time. What will it cost you to wait?
MONTHLY RELATIONSHIP MASTER CLASSES
& GROUP COACHING CALLS
(RECORDINGS ARE ADDED TO THE COURSE)
With Fresh Start you'll learn to focus on yourself. You'll learn how to build what I call Happiness Habits into your daily life so that...
Your LOVE & EMOTIONAL WISDOM will expand.
Your HAPPINESS CHEMICALS rise, and your FIGHT / FLIGHT mode is lowered.
You'll learn to trust yourself again.
When you are not living your past over and over again, you will be able to rely on your instincts to alert you when something really is wrong in a relationship.
You can't control the outcome. But you can control YOU! And when you know you've done all you can - you feel free.
Check out how these woman experienced
their lives after they completed the programme.
Check out what Life Coach, Leoni Liebenberg Coetzee has to say about what happened for her.
"Before this programme, I was anxious about my life. By the end, I was really a different person. I'm calmer, am in control of my emotions. I don't panic anymore.
I do what what I am capable of achieving each day. I no longer feel drained and in chaos. I've become more productive as a result. I learnt I can change most of the things I complain about in my life. I am capable of changing my life, it is after all MY life.
I learned that what we eat also has a direct impact on how we feel emotionally. After the gentle detox, I no longer felt tired and lazy.
Miraculously, my migraines went away, my sinus improved and my severe period pains are now very minor, or not at all. I haven't confirmed with the doctor yet, but I don't get the sharp horrible pain I used to get due to ovarian cysts from hormonal imbalance. I know my hormones are in order now.
My life has changed a lot, and I still continue putting into practice everything I learnt." - Maletshela Moeletsi
INSIDE THIS COURSE
- Videos, Workbooks and Worksheets.
- Monthly Master Classes and Coaching Calls which are recorded and made available in your course material.
- Weekly Facebook Live Q&A Sessions & Quick Coaching Calls
- There is a private Facebook community where you can access coaching and support.
There is no private support with this programme.
THIS COURSE IS NOT FOR YOU IF
X - You're looking for a quick-fix.
X- If you are not teachable or coachable.
X - You're not ready to put in the time.
WARNING - IF YOU HAVE CLINICAL DEPRESSION YOU MAY STILL NEED THERAPY.
“It was absolutely awesome. I had lost my way before I started it and by the end I felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders and I am free to fly again.
I learnt so many ways to deal with different issues and having the opportunity to practice them and then give feedback to the group was great.” – Kerry Ulyate, Business Analyst, Discovery Health
"I signed up without having any idea what to expect, really. I just thought I would come out better on the other side. What I got was immense as a result. Jo's guidance and support every step of the way meant that I couldn't allow myself to give up. Her own story was an inspiration and her insights both humorous and profound. I came away richer than I started. Without a doubt, doing one of Jo's programmes was one of the best decisions I have made in 43 years." - Tam Olckers
"What originally motivated me to join was a desire to find some way of calming my anxiety and to feel less stressed, I hoped to do this through meditation. I was not particularly motivated to lose weight or face my emotional issues; all of this came up right from the very beginning though. I was unhappy with so many aspects of my life. My interactions with Jo were a catalyst which led me to make some life changes. I started exercising and meditating regularly, picked up my art practice and sought out opportunities to get work on exhibition. I reduced the number of clients I was doing work for and started spending more time sculpting. I also lost 15 kilograms." - Jenny, http://
"Once upon a time in a far away, isolated village lived a young girl by the name of Cookie and she lived in absolute misery. She hated her job, she didn’t want to get out of bed in the mornings, she was constantly angry, bitter and utterly unhappy. She blamed her background, her finances, her failed relationships for her messed up state, she even blamed God for not granting things in her favour. Cookie sometimes thought that an evil witch had cast a silly spell on her to confine and stagnate her pursuit of happiness. Days seemed like doses of misery and she slowly slipped into depression then moved into suicidal thoughts till she finally buried herself.
One night the tooth fairy was doing her rounds in dreamland and heard a cry for help, she rushed over to find Cookie helplessly drowning deeper in depression. She pulled her out and suggested a bootcamp.
“Oh boy” Cookie thought, “But I don’t like running” she said.
The fairy smiled at her and said, “It’s a bootcamp with a funky twist love”.
And the fairy whisked her off to Land Bootcamp for Personal Development, Fitness & Fun.
Cookie couldn’t believe her eyes..it was simply..magical. All the things she didn’t think existed were right before her. She found a treasure box filled with valuable goodies. Not only did she find an exotic vegan meal and a good stretch, she found the most precious gift of all. She found herself again. She surfaced back to life, back to appreciation and gratitude, she surfaced back to God. Cookie discovered her passion and resigned from her dreadful, daunting job to a life unknown yet so exciting and refreshing…
The End…." By Sunflawer Nomonde Makwez, Johannesburg.
"During my first 28-Day Bootcamp I lost 4kg, reduced my panic attacks down to nearly nothing, and felt stronger in my ability to cope with life. My second bootcamp took my weightloss to 7.5kg and by the third I’d lost 11 and to this day 6 months later I haven’t put it back on. I loved working outdoors and the community support." –Tumi Moleko