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DOES THIS SOUND LIKE YOU?
You have so much love to give. You've a purpose. But something is missing from your relationships and your life. You're exhausted from giving too much or having a broken heart.
You might even think something is wrong with you. Or wonder what you could have done differently. And you're angry, trying really hard not to show it. You feel resentment and guilt at the same time
I know how lonely this can feel. All you want is inner happiness and peace. To know you matter. And to love yourself and others unconditionally
But you don't know how.
What’s REALLY stopping you experiencing love in your life?
HOW TO WIPE THE SLATE CLEAN,
AND START OVER CREATING A NEW LIFE.
HERE IS YOUR FRESH START BLUEPRINT.
For women who are caught up in painful relationship patterns who are ready to seek their own love first and experience inner happiness and freedom - even if everything is a total mess.
What happens when someone doesn’t turn out to be the person we thought they were? Or when we fall apart?
The usual response is to demand our partners change (FIGHT)or to internalise our pain (FLIGHT) until we are sick. We numb ourselves with food, booze, social media or too much work. We seek distraction in our other relationships. Our life is determined by seeking relief instead of inspired by purpose and love.
This does not have to be your life.
BREAK FREE FROM YOUR NEGATIVE RELATIONSHIP PATTERNS WITH AN EMOTIONAL REBOOT.
REBOOT YOUR EMOTIONAL PATHWAYS.
And the reason everything you've tried up until now doesn't work is because:
Relationships have become your THREAT!
In short, you're living off your stress hormones. Every decision you make is governed by FIGHT & FLIGHT SYNDROME. Right now, the only time you feel happy is either when you're getting your needs met by someone else or when you distract yourself with food, booze or whatever is your fancy.
For as long as your pain chemicals are high, and your happiness chemicals are low, it won't matter what relationship strategies you employ. You'll still end up unhappy.
Because you can never control other people. Relationships can't be managed. And when people do what you want because you've made them, you end up more insecure than ever.
You can't trust love you've coerced.
YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE. IT'S TIME TO STOP LOOKING FOR IT OUTSIDE OF YOU.
It's time to come home to you...
HOW DOES FOCUSING ON MYSELF
SHIFT MY RELATIONSHIPS?
When you cultivate happiness levels, unconditional love becomes easy. For self and for others. When you have inner power, you don't need to exert external power. Love becomes easy. And we know exactly how to handle difficult situations. And every relationship has it's challenges.
"I was a hurting person, lacked confidence and did not believe in my dreams nor myself. I couldn't understand why my relationships were not working out, seeking love and validation from the world. I was a YES girl. 😀. In the first 3 weeks of the programme, I gained confidence. I'm now less dependent on people and my energy levels are amazing, I laugh harder and louder🙈 . I'm more myself without seeking permission to be. I use the hours in my day effectively. I no longer look outside of me to make things right when things go wrong, even when I forget and hurt I catch myself and start working from inside. Life no longer happens to me because I get that I am 100% responsible for my life. I am proud and grateful for where I am right now. ❤️❤️❤️ I AM LOVING MY LIFE! There is sooo much power in community. 💕 It's amazing being here and I am grateful for this space🙏)" - Keamo Molefe
"“Before I did this programme I was a depressed couch potato, who secluded herself from the world trying to numb a pain I didn't understand. Having been through a number of traumatic events in my life that have kept me in my shell. I felt angry, resentment and feelings of unworthiness. I was scared of meeting new people and self conscious of my body. Within a couple of days I was off the couch and doing things that enriched my life. I feel a new gratitude and my partner says I'm a happier person. I don't need to be perfect. I can just be ME. I'm facing my fears. And the community support is amazing" - Kagiso Kay Ramafoko
WHO WOULD YOU BE
IF YOU IF YOU WERE FREE FROM EMOTIONAL PAIN?
You're no longer defined by what other's want.
You’re no longer thrown off course every time someone does something you don't like or DOESN'T do something you want.
You know what you want and why you want it.
You've stopped tripping up on your fears, insecurities and lack of emotional strength.
You're training your mind to think powerfully and attract and build beautiful relationships.
Life is getting better and better every day.
THIS IS WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT TO SEE
AS A RESULT OF FRESHSTART YOUR LIFE
"It made me realize just how much power I had. I was feeling so helpless and thinking my husband was the reason for my unhappiness. I've learned to practise radical self love. I no longer feel like a victim. I've learned to let people in. I mean really let them in. I've learned to cry, to shout and to say it's enough. I've learned to let people be, to let them journey on their paths without my interference (I used to call this helping). I've learned to sit with my pain and know that it's all perfect - my depression, panic attacks and all. I am now more at peace and more free from it all. You've been such an incredible teacher. I love you will every fibre of my being." - Vuyile MaZikalala Ntshangase
Learn to have a love affair with yourself so you can break negative relationship patterns in your life.
Free yourself of guilt, anger, resentment, hurt and anxiety.
Increase your capacity to love unconditionally, starting with yourself.
"I have not taken any anxiety meds since I started. It feels good" - Tint P Malaza
"Before starting, I was struggling with depression, anxiety, using alcohol to cope. Within a few days, I noticed a remarkable difference in my ability to focus and felt increasingly energized. My emotions calmed, my mood elevated and my stress levels were no longer off the spectrum. Instead of melt downs that had me yelling, I became able to communicate my feelings. When I hit a rough patch, Jo’s gentle guidance was also a beautiful compliment to the e-course. This was a liberating experience.” – Michal (At Michal's request, not her real name/image to protect her identity from an abusive ex.)
"Before I joined I was in a very dark place. I felt like I was facing another depression I didn't love my life anymore. During the programme I learned so much about myself. The right words to use are: "I found myself." I learned about my strength and how to learn from my weakness. I learned I'm in control of my emotions and how to react to those emotions. When I started I weighed 90kg. Four weeks down the line I had lost 10kg. I am coming out of this process equipped with so much information to last me a life time. Thanks for being such a beautiful person with a heart of gold. I will continue to trust the process." - Lindiwe Radebe
"I have become more vocal and focused. I have become less agitated. I am becoming a better person each day. I have learnt the strongest tool within me is my mind." - Ngawethu Bhelazana Ngamza Mtlomelo
WHO ARE WE
We're Jo Ntsebeza & Adelaide Fyffe, qualified professional coaches, facilitators, trainers and lay counsellors with 50 years combined experience. And it’s our mission to show you how to create love in your life so you can not only feel heard, safe and know you matter, but so you can experience a richness of love and freedom in your relationship (and your life). If this sounds like something you desire, we've got you
WE ARE LOVE SHIFT RELATIONSHIP COACHS, AND IN OUR OWN LIVES WE:
Ended many negative personal and relationship patterns. Like you, we once believed relationships could make us happy. But we found that, whatever our pain outside a relationship, it was amplified in it.
Then we began to systematically practise the tools and habits we now teach in FreshStart Emotional Reboot. We began to heal and and we transformed our lives. We're now in relationships where we experience genuine love and presence in our partners. We’ve learned how to create an INNER HAPPINESS & LOVE that isn’t reliant on our husbands or someone else. And now when things don’t go the way our way, we stay centered.
We’ve served as a coach and teacher to thousands of people in the last 25 years. We've helped CEO’s, leaders, managers and many people like yourselves to break free from their heartache; to move away from feeling disempowered in their relationships and being dependent on someone else for the well being.
Because here is the vegan beef:
The result is that emotionally I'm growing, I'm no longer sorry for myself. I'm not triggered by other people's negativity towards me. Everyday I'm discovering my power, everyday I feel enlightened even in those bad days. Thank you.” — Nelly Masia
You spend most of your energy worrying about what others are thinking, feeling and doing, leaving you feeling helpless and out of control. What you need is the courage to be disliked. For the courage to be disliked, you need to get out of fight/flight mode, raise your happiness levels and your stress threshold so you can tolerate what you think is not tolerable.
You're not giving building yourself spiritually, emotionally, mentally and physically - EVERY DAY - so that you don’t feel so easily unhinged. You've trained yourself to feel bad. Now you can learn how to train yourself to be happy. It takes time. What will it cost you to wait?
MONTHLY RELATIONSHIP MASTER CLASSES
& GROUP COACHING CALLS
(RECORDINGS ARE ADDED TO THE COURSE)
With Fresh Start you'll learn to focus on yourself. You'll learn how to build what I call Happiness Habits into your daily life so that..
Your HAPPINESS CHEMICALS rise, and your FIGHT / FLIGHT mode is lowered.
You'll learn to trust yourself again.
When you are not living your past over and over again, you will be able to rely on your instincts to alert you when something really is wrong in a relationship.
You can't control the outcome. But you can control YOU! And when you know you've done all you can - you feel free.
Check out how these woman experienced
their lives after they completed the programme.
Check out what Life Coach, Leoni Liebenberg Coetzee has to say about what happened for her.
"I was looking at my face in the mirror the other day. It is better than it has ever looked. I realized that I never understood the meaning of self care. I always thought it was the long baths etc, but it is actually gently loving yourself from the inside. I have always been unable to forgive myself, I beat myself up so bad I think if I had to turn myself inside out I'd be black and blue. Sitting in the understanding that honouring my emotions and my body with what it really needs internally, proved life changing." - Lucia Mashilo
"I am finally reading print books again. I am becoming more focused all round. I am happy for the productivity and creativity in my days. I am feeling more alive, seeing the beauty of the day.
I worked a full 5 day 8hr/day week for the first time in 10 months, since my mom passed on. I recognised my fears and flipped the script so that they do not paralyse me. My capacity to stay focused in a meeting has improved a thousandfold. I found the courage to send out marketing promotional emails for my business.
Overall, I have been reminded very powerfully that we may feel broken, even then we can mend, and we can mend each other. The power of community is irreplaceable as it keeps us motivated and encouraged." - Lorna Houston
"Before this programme, I was anxious about my life. By the end, I was really a different person. I'm calmer, am in control of my emotions. I don't panic anymore.
I do what what I am capable of achieving each day. I no longer feel drained and in chaos. I've become more productive as a result. I learnt I can change most of the things I complain about in my life. I am capable of changing my life, it is after all MY life.
I learned that what we eat also has a direct impact on how we feel emotionally. After the gentle detox, I no longer felt tired and lazy.
Miraculously, my migraines went away, my sinus improved and my severe period pains are now very minor, or not at all. I haven't confirmed with the doctor yet, but I don't get the sharp horrible pain I used to get due to ovarian cysts from hormonal imbalance. I know my hormones are in order now.
My life has changed a lot, and I still continue putting into practice everything I learnt." - Maletshela Moeletsi
INSIDE THIS COURSE
- Videos, workbooks and worksheets.
- Monthly Master Classes and Coaching Calls which are recorded and made available in your course material.
- There is a private Facebook community where you can access coaching and support.
X - There is no private support with this programme.
X - This course is NOT for you if you're looking for a quick-fix
“It was absolutely awesome. I had lost my way before I started it and by the end I felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders and I am free to fly again.
I learnt so many ways to deal with different issues and having the opportunity to practice them and then give feedback to the group was great.” – Kerry Ulyate, Business Analyst, Discovery Health
"I signed up without having any idea what to expect, really. I just thought I would come out better on the other side. What I got was immense as a result. Jo's guidance and support every step of the way meant that I couldn't allow myself to give up. Her own story was an inspiration and her insights both humorous and profound. I came away richer than I started. Without a doubt, doing one of Jo's programmes was one of the best decisions I have made in 43 years." - Tam Olckers
"What originally motivated me to join was a desire to find some way of calming my anxiety and to feel less stressed, I hoped to do this through meditation. I was not particularly motivated to lose weight or face my emotional issues; all of this came up right from the very beginning though. I was unhappy with so many aspects of my life. My interactions with Jo were a catalyst which led me to make some life changes. I started exercising and meditating regularly, picked up my art practice and sought out opportunities to get work on exhibition. I reduced the number of clients I was doing work for and started spending more time sculpting. I also lost 15 kilograms." - Jenny, http://
"Once upon a time in a far away, isolated village lived a young girl by the name of Cookie and she lived in absolute misery. She hated her job, she didn’t want to get out of bed in the mornings, she was constantly angry, bitter and utterly unhappy. She blamed her background, her finances, her failed relationships for her messed up state, she even blamed God for not granting things in her favour. Cookie sometimes thought that an evil witch had cast a silly spell on her to confine and stagnate her pursuit of happiness. Days seemed like doses of misery and she slowly slipped into depression then moved into suicidal thoughts till she finally buried herself.
One night the tooth fairy was doing her rounds in dreamland and heard a cry for help, she rushed over to find Cookie helplessly drowning deeper in depression. She pulled her out and suggested a bootcamp.
“Oh boy” Cookie thought, “But I don’t like running” she said.
The fairy smiled at her and said, “It’s a bootcamp with a funky twist love”.
And the fairy whisked her off to Land Bootcamp for Personal Development, Fitness & Fun.
Cookie couldn’t believe her eyes..it was simply..magical. All the things she didn’t think existed were right before her. She found a treasure box filled with valuable goodies. Not only did she find an exotic vegan meal and a good stretch, she found the most precious gift of all. She found herself again. She surfaced back to life, back to appreciation and gratitude, she surfaced back to God. Cookie discovered her passion and resigned from her dreadful, daunting job to a life unknown yet so exciting and refreshing…
The End…." By Sunflawer Nomonde Makwez, Johannesburg.
"During my first 28-Day Bootcamp I lost 4kg, reduced my panic attacks down to nearly nothing, and felt stronger in my ability to cope with life. My second bootcamp took my weightloss to 7.5kg and by the third I’d lost 11 and to this day 6 months later I haven’t put it back on. I loved working outdoors and the community support." –Tumi Moleko